If your goal is to be seen as being right (even if you are) and not be loving (seeking another’s good first), you are missing the mark (sin) and if you’re missing the mark you are missing the point (commanded to love: neighbors, church, spouses, enemies, etc.) and if you’re missing the point you’ll end up missing the boat (the Kingdom of God) and that’s a shame. We love because He first loved us.
Hesed informs Agape.
“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3